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the desire map [part one]

the desire map…

core desired feelings…

the desire map, danielle laporte

where to start?

this post is one i have been wanting to write for a month or so now. but i keep putting it off ~ because i am not quite sure how to put all the thoughts in my head to words… but here goes… i will try my best!

The Desire Map called to me as soon as i heard about it… living each and every day based off how i desire to feel – yeah baby – bring it on!!  who wouldn’t want that?


Take a journey into the things which you are carrying, the known -
not into the unknown – into what you already know:
your pleasures, your delights, your despairs, your sorrows.
Take a journey into that, that is all you have.

~Jaluddin Krishnamurti


but the whole idea was a little scary. i don’t know what i want. how i want to feel. my days are busy and full of so much ‘doing’, that the ‘being’ takes back seat. even the time to sit and work out how i want to ‘be’ seemed impossible to find. i have work to do. a child to care for. a house to clean. clients to please and bills to pay. there is no time! argh ~ time, time time!

that and revealing my true feelings is not something i am always comfortable doing. i struggle with writing and although i have plenty of pretty journals laying around the house, i prefer my thoughts in my head, rather than immortalised on paper.  the idea of answering questions and writing the answers down ~ makes me shudder. [side note] you know in magazines where they have those questionnaires ~ answer A if you feel this way, or B or C ~ then you find out the results at the end. i skip ahead to the end and decide which i want to be: A B or C. i hate answering the questions… yes, i am a little crazy!

i was scared, but i brought the desire map package and was committed to following through. i read the book on my iPad, and i listened to the audio copy while i was working on my computer editing photos.  the audio copy ~ oh so blissful! i am a little behind the times and have never actually listened to an audio book before.  it was fan-freaking-tastic! Danielle’s voice and style of reading is divine… the first time i listened intently and soaked in as much of her words as i possibly could. i have listened about 5 more times since then, just as background while i am working.  every now and then something will alert me and i will listen to a particular passage ~ just the exact right sentence heard at the exact right time…

so i read and i listened and the time came for the workbook.  eeek ~ the questions and the requisite answers! surprisingly it wasn’t as bad as i thought it would be. some questions in the beginning i skipped ~ i simply didn’t know how to answer them. but as the workbook went on, my excitement grew.  this was it, i was doing it, i was writing answers on paper!! at the end i was actually going to have a list of my core desired feelings!!! *excited*

i crave…. sugar, good health, more time, less stress, to be an amazing mum, lots of cuddles and time with Liana… other than time or money, what i want more of is… long and meaningful conversations, ‘i feel great’ days, routine… i need to give myself more permission to be… spontaneous, free, happy, joyful, relaxed… the colour of joy is... red and orange swirled together… if i whisper the word bliss… i feel stillness… i feel vulnerable when... i am the centre of attention…

the desire map, danielle laporte, not for eating, renee bell


in crisis… i take a deep breath and keep going… when feeling free and strong i tend to… act spontaneously… if delight were an animal, it would be… a bouncy playful kitten… i am proud of… my beautiful girl and all that i have achieved… my most regular waking thought… i want more sleep, but i am so excited to get up and start the day…


next comes the brainstorming… 5 different areas ~ body and wellness | essence and spirituality | relationships and society | creativity and learning | livelihood and lifestyle


i want to feel…

harmonious, creative, artisitc, blissful, healed, fit, healthy, strong, energetic, comfortable, relaxed, vivacious, grounded, contented, radiant, inspiring, enlightened

and 5 pages more of scribbled words and definitions and ideas and feelings… wow ~ did all that come out of my head?


from there i took a few days break and i came back. to the words that resonated with me the most. the words that were a consistent pattern through all my pages of notes.


check out the desire map here

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February 5, 2013 - 10:20 am

back to school! » [Renee Bell | Photographer] - [...] completing the desire map program in december and re confirming the fact that health needed to be my priority i took a leap and [...]

January 31, 2013 - 2:18 am

Renee Bell - hey @[1401937274:2048:Sara] – thanks for reading!! i hope you work out a process that brings you happiness ;)

January 26, 2013 - 6:56 am

Sara Arrigoni - I am looking forward to following more of your process. I too can completely relate to the “lots of pretty journals around” but not actually wanting to “commit myself” to writing anything down. I haven’t followed the Desire Map much, but it sounds like a wonderful process is opening up for you, and I want to find out more!

January 24, 2013 - 10:03 am

the desire map [part two] » [Renee Bell | Photographer] - [...] part one here if you missed it… [...]

January 23, 2013 - 9:46 pm

Renee Bell - thanks you SO much @[1532829367:2048:Treacy] <3 one day hopefully we will be in the same time zone and be able to really sit down for that coffee [though i will drink water] but for now, thanks for being here to follow along in my journey!

January 23, 2013 - 5:46 pm

Susan - Lovely post and just the inspiration I need to write about my own process with the Desire Map because like you I have had it rumbling around my head since December!

January 23, 2013 - 4:43 pm

Danielle LaPorte - so honest and beautiful.
thank you.

January 23, 2013 - 4:42 pm

Davina - Beautiful, Renee! I love that you’ve put into real life, the world what you want to feel, who you are, and what bliss looks like for you. What an incredible journey. I know it takes courage to share something like this. You are a strong and brave and amazing woman. Keep moving forward…I’m looking forward to part 2. :)

January 23, 2013 - 1:39 pm

Treacy Mize - Thank you for sharing your process. What is neat about posts like this, as you journey out to be your whole self, and let the world watch you, you unknowingly give others permission to do the same. It’s this grand ripple effect.

Your writing style is lovely. I feel like I’ve sat down and had coffee with you and I left the post wanting part 2 immediately. I hear so much hope in your post. It really is such an inspiring piece.

I related to so many of the same things you shared. I loved your answers to your prompts. It instantly made me think of what my own might be. Thanks again…so profound.

January 23, 2013 - 8:30 am

Valerie - Beautiful. Simply beautiful. And real. <3

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