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the desire map [part two]

part one here if you missed it…


soooo, a few weeks ago i read The Desire Map and i listened to audio readings, i answered questions, i wrote pages and pages of notes and lists of words and dictionary definitions… i circled and crossed out and hilighted those that called my name as such, and eventually i was left with a list of words. the words that resonated with me the most. the words that were a consistent pattern through all my pages of notes.

the link to one particular word kept coming up…

core desired feelings, renee bell, not for eating

to me harmony looks like… being composed, put together, relaxed… harmony feels like… being balanced, whole and healed…  harmony sounds like… being in tune, and beautiful…

harmony is really about… BALANCE


so often i feel like i am floating, rushing from one task to another without ever finishing anything. i have spoken about this plenty of times ~ i crave stillness and order and somewhat of a schedule. so this is not too much of a surprise to me that my desires lie around this aspect [but so incredibly nice to have a beautiful sounding word to describe how i want to feel].  i feel like, at the point i am at, i want [need] to understand aspects of my health that have alluded me till now. i want [need] to stop being so rushed from place to place and task to task. i want [need] more time to relax and enjoy life.

there is no point in me going to yoga class every day [that would be amazing] if it means i then have to stay up till midnight working just so i can invoice the cutomer and pay rent this week and then spend my days tired and desperately wanting a nap.  there is no point spending the time to take personal photos if i never make the time to download them from the memory card and print them into books.  there is no point buying new craft materials if i never end up using them. or buying ingredients to make green smoothies, if i never set aside the time to blend them up & they slowly rot in the fridge… or skipping lunch because i am too busy to stop working and then hitting the brick wall at 3pm just after i have desperately reached for sugar laced treats to fuel my energy levels…


TO BE HARMONIOUS ~ i want to be and to feel balanced, whole, fit, healthy and in tune. to have balance and harmony around all aspects of my interests, hobbies and creative outlets as well as the day to day stuff that is necessary to keep a roof over our heads and food on the dinner table. to have the perfect [but adaptable] balance between all the important parts of my life.

more note taking and brainstorming and i came up with a list… 4 little branches off my harmony tree that would all work together to help me lead back there


my core desired feelings…

core desired feelings, the desire map, renee bell photographer, harmony


slightly longer and in context…

for all aspects of my life to be harmonious in the way i want them to be, i need:

  • to be grounded and contented
  • to feel blissful at every opportunity
  • to be vivacious and to ooze radiance
  • to feel relaxed


and in a little more detail…

GROUNDED | CONTENTED ~ i want to schedule time to allow for creativity and hobbies. to practice gratitude.  to be settled into a routine that brings pleasure and allows time for all that i yearn to do. to accept that fact that wishing for more time [or the ability to function on 3 hours sleep a night] will never help me.

BLISSFUL ~ i want to be delighted by each and every new day and all the experiences it brings. to be settled and accepting that what will be will be [no over-analyzing].  to give myself opportunity [and permission] to indulge in my interests. to experience magic. to let loose all old conceptions about food and health.

VIVACIOUS | RADIANT ~ i want to be healthy and feeling energised. i need to let everything be fun [even housework] and filled with intense joy and happiness. to be happy, joyous and delighted with every interaction i have. to share my true feelings and show my happiness. to present myself in an energetic and lively way. to be surrounded by fun and happy things.

RELAXED ~ to be relieved of tension and anxiety. to have no expectations. to live in the moment. to be settled and accepting that what-will-be-will-be.  not over analyzing. to not feel stressed or lazy when i am taking time for myself. to let loose old conceptions about food.


pretty awesome right?? now to put it all into action… [will be back to you as soon as i work out a plan!]


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February 2, 2013 - 2:13 am

Renee Bell - thank you so much @[1270291786:2048:Valerie] – i am glad that reading my ramblings is benificial to so many people.. xx

January 31, 2013 - 8:16 pm

Valerie Rapp Fuller - I love that you are sharing this with us! It’s interesting to see the process for DM, but it’s also fascinating to see how you’ve narrowed down your wants and needs. I can’t wait to read more and to see how you apply the worksheets for your monthly and weekly goals/maps.

I think a lot of people are feeling the same way…so kudos to you for being honest with yourself and taking action to make it happen for you! xoxox

January 31, 2013 - 4:11 pm

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January 30, 2013 - 10:57 pm

Renee Bell - thank you so much @[1216803991:2048:Laura Cottril] – thank you for reading!

January 30, 2013 - 10:57 pm

Renee Bell - it isn’t magic @[100002318286911:2048:Megan King] ;) so no, simply writing or deciding it wont make it happen (or by reading what i want and deciding anyone wants the same.) but as part of the DM process there are plans and worksheets for each month and week to map out what you plan to do to generate those core desired feelings. as always, a work in progress!

January 30, 2013 - 6:54 pm

Laura Cottril - Good work Renee Bell, going through all the steps and distilling to your core desired feelings! :)

January 29, 2013 - 8:35 pm

Megan King - I want all that too! Do you think by writing it down like this and clarifying what you want will actually make it happen?

January 25, 2013 - 9:59 pm

Renee Bell - feel free @[177400949:2048:Kristin] :) thanks for reading xx

January 25, 2013 - 12:36 am

Renee Bell - <3 <3 @[1568589149:2048:Vanessa]

January 24, 2013 - 10:40 pm

Vanessa Anderson - I agree. Awesome post. So true and raw and honest, yet beautiful.

January 24, 2013 - 1:34 pm

Bex @ Vegan Sparkles - Hi Renee!
I’m in you IIN class and just wanted to say what a GORGEOUS blog! I look forward to following along. :-) xx

January 24, 2013 - 10:12 am
January 24, 2013 - 3:35 am

Kristin Hoddenbach Brown - Oooh I love this post even more than the first one! And I TOTALLY relate to you in wanting very very similar things for myself. I love the word harmony–it seems to combine so many wonderful things. I might steal it for my own life. :)

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